An Open Letter to Birth Without Fear

by Svea Boyda-Vikander on April 9, 2014

At Birth Without Fear, we receive hundreds of emails on a daily basis. Many of them are birth stories, to which we say: squeee! Some of them are spam, to which we say: didn’t I create a filter for you? Some of them are hate mail, to which we say: Thank you for your feedback? And, also, I know I created a filter for you! And every once in a while, we get a beautiful prose piece from someone whose life has been changed by Birth Without Fear. Our response to this one is: silent awe. We are absolutely speechless with gratitude for the words that Brie H. from Cincinnati, Ohio, has shared with us.

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January,

I would like to personally thank you for the movement you have set in motion in our country, and around the world.  You have inspired and moved HUNDREDS OR THOUSANDS!  How amazing is that to think about?  When we are young, so many of us don’t know what we want to do with our lives, but we know we somehow want to make a difference.  Well girl, you’ve done just that.  You will be able to look back over your life and know that you made the world a better place.  You changed something, and something HUGE.  You, January, have made a positive difference and moved mountains for people you have never even met.  You fight for us, and give us a voice that we never knew we had.  You, and the other wonderful people behind Birth Without Fear, have given us an education on our rights that we may never have had without you.  You have changed birthing outcomes and improved lives of women, families, and babies all around the world in doing so.  WHAT AN AMAZING IMPACT!

I want you to know that I appreciate the sacrifices you’ve made for me.  You have sacrificed time that you will never get back with your families, your husband, your children, your friends, and yourself, so that I know my rights.  So that I can be happy and have the best birth, pregnancy, and family life that I can humanly have.  January, I will never fully understand the frustration you must feel when you see that we aren’t supporting each other, or loving each other, or aren’t showing you and the entire BWF family the gratitude you deserve.  You have done everything for us, and have only shown us love, support and acceptance.

I would, above all else, like to say THANK YOU.  Thank you for the journey you took to bring us Birth Without Fear.  Thank you for the sacrifices you have made.  Thank you for the tears you have cried, the time you will never get back, and any hurt your hearts have felt in the process of making my life better.  I want you to know that you have made a difference, and none of it has been in vein.  I want you to know that I wish you every bit of happiness and joy this life has to offer, because you and your families have made my life so much easier and better because of the sacrifices you’ve made in the name of Birth Without Fear.

One day, I hope to be able to meet you, January.  I hope I have the ability to hug you, and tell you “thank you”, face-to-face, because you have made such a difference in my life.  I thank you with all of my heart, and I thank you from the rest of the BWF community who sometimes forget what you have given up to help all of us.

Sending so much love,

Brie Hammer
Cincinnati, Ohio

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Jen April 10, 2014 at 7:15 am

Thank you! You are amazing, BWF!!! Great letter as well :)

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G Wilkins April 10, 2014 at 12:08 pm

What she said a hundred times over!
Bravo!

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Teresa April 10, 2014 at 5:40 pm

I couldn’t have said it any better! Thank you January!

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Sarah April 10, 2014 at 5:43 pm

So beautiful Brie an I wholeheartedly agree – January and the BWF team are awesome and have truly started a birthing revolution xo

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Marissa April 10, 2014 at 5:52 pm

This is so true!
And it’s so comforting to know that despite of all the bad news we hear and watch on TV, many wonderful things are also happening in the world. Like this beautiful sisterhood energy shared by so many people in the world.
I love you all.

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Tara April 20, 2014 at 1:47 am

This. All of this. I feel every word she said down to my bones.

I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again. A second child wasn’t even an option I considered until I began reading this blog. And then, because of my time here, I decided on natural birth (something that shocked me, my husband, mom and virtually everyone who knows the big baby I am – or seemed to be). I had THE most amazing hypnobabies birth and I honestly would never have considered it if you hadn’t been so dedicated to this mission.

So in essence, you have entirely changed my life and increased my family and heritage bye one whole person. That’s a person who wouldn’t have come into this world without you following this calling. And I know there are many others like him. How many sweet little ones are growing and thriving because of you? How many mamas are deeply healed and empowered by their birthing experiences because of you? This is such SUCH important work. Thank you.

I too pray many blessings over you and what I wouldn’t give to bump into you some day and just sit down and talk like old friends. Because, in a very real sense, you are a dear friend to me. And I’d love to introduce my son Jacob to you, because you are a very real part of his existence. Oh, and also my husband wants a bazillion more kids now so he needs you to keep doing this because I’m feeling pretty content with two babies. This site keeps my baby fever simmering along under the surface and he knows it. So I send you his thanks too. ;-)

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