• Coffee is the New Crack for Pregnant Women
  • My Husband Grew a Beard & I Got Pregnant
  • The Stories of My {Three} Children’s Births
  • I Am Strong {OverComing Judgment}
  • Birth with Shoulder Dystocia
  • Overcoming Infertility {I Am Strong}
  • A Healing Homebirth After Cesarean {Slideshow}
  • Our Third Son, Our First Home Birth {Papa’s Story – Follow Up from Mama’s!}
  • Pregnant with Cancer {I Am Strong}
  • Our Third Son, Our First Home Birth {Mama’s Story – Read Papa’s Tomorrow!}

Coffee is the New Crack for Pregnant Women

by Mrs. BWF on September 9, 2014

As many of you know, we announced the pregnancy of our 6th child recently!

As a blogger, I waited as long as I felt I could before sharing. Why you ask? Because people can suck. If you’ve been on the internet at all you know I’m not being mean, just stating the truth. I really did not want to put up with judgments and opinions about my pregnancy, birth, and life.

If you had asked me a week ago what I thought I’d have to worry about, I would have said maybe having a sixth child and ‘overpopulating the earth’ or maybe people going on about what kind of birth I will have. Surprisingly that did not happen (yet). The response was wonderful, supportive, and people are excited for us.

Until I posted a picture of a latte. A Pumpkin Spice Latte. So beautiful.

January Harshe, pumpkin spice latte

The Birth Without Fear Instagram is usually laid back and judgment-free, but people started arguing if it was healthy and okay if I drank a coffee while pregnant. I was quite dumbfounded. I mean, here I am, excited about #allthepumpkin and people are freaking out. I dedicate more hours than I care to admit to serve women, empower them, inspire them to love themselves and take control of their births and lives, and people are going to give me a hard time over coffee?

Then people didn’t like that I had another coffee and I made it clear I wouldn’t accept the judgment or hate and that I am in charge of my own body. I’m on my 6th kid y’all, I think I’ve got this. I won’t post it all here as you can go look yourself.

Let me make one thing clear. Being quiet is not an option for me. It’s not who I am. Telling me to stop talking about it and be quiet fuels a fire in me. It’s why there is a Birth Without Fear! Women should not be quiet about being mistreated. Ever.

Thousands of women have come to my defense (thank you!), but others just can not let it go. Telling me I’m a bad influence, that I’m offensive (for drinking coffee), that I don’t care about my babies, and of course I’m a bitch, etc. These are women who are not perfect, who benefit from my hard work, who I’ve supported and who even have pictures of their own lattes on their Instagram accounts. It’s madness.

Let me tell you what my care providers think

My midwife asked me out to lunch and coffee.

My OB is stunned I’m getting crap over coffee. He also agreed with me that it wasn’t a crack pipe and sent me on my way stating that my baby and I are in perfect health.

I’ve had a hard pregnancy, with being very nauseas and traveling a lot, as well as working and a mom to five children. They want me to simply drink and eat what I can and so far I seem to be doing a good job.

Coffee Intake When Pregnant

American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists (ACOG) states that moderate caffeine intake — less than 200 milligrams a day — won’t increase their risk of miscarriage or preterm birth.

The same cannot be said for higher amounts of caffeine, the group states in the August issue of Obstetrics & Gynecology.

“For years, women have been getting mixed messages about whether or not they should have any caffeine during pregnancy,” says William H. Barth Jr., MD, chair of ACOG’s committee on obstetric practice, in a news release. “After a review of the scientific evidence to date, daily moderate caffeine consumption doesn’t appear to have any major impact in causing miscarriage or preterm birth.”

The risks depend on the person, as with anything else, and most issues from caffeine intake are from extreme or high amounts of intake on a daily basis. This is not only from coffee, but sodas and teas as well. Here is a chart to help you know how much caffeine is in different drinks you may enjoy.

Bottom line: Do your own research. Talk to your care providers. Make your own choices. Don’t judge others if their choice is different than yours.



My Husband Grew a Beard & I Got Pregnant

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Hear me out. Last April I finally found the mental strength and love for myself to participate in the 4th Trimester Bodies Project. I was pampered and loved on for the goddess that I am. I had a wonderful day celebrating me for me. I was glowing. Little did I know at the time, Ashlee […]

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The Stories of My {Three} Children’s Births

August 26, 2014

I am strong because at 28 weeks I kept going into preterm labor, but managed to keep my baby in until 38 weeks. I am strong because I wanted a completely natural delivery without medications or any intervention from doctors, nurses, etc. (especially a C-section)! I am strong because I went into labor on September […]

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I Am Strong {OverComing Judgment}

August 26, 2014

I am strong. I am strong because after 32 weeks of the most beautiful and fulfilling pregnancy a girl could dream, I developed a severe headache that I attributed to annual allergies and headed to work as I had done for the last 6 months. I am strong because at 32 weeks and 1 day […]

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Birth with Shoulder Dystocia

August 15, 2014

“We ‘broke up’ with our OB at 31 weeks and found our midwife. As soon as we met her, we knew she’d be the one delivering our son. I was in labor for 24 hours and pushed for four. When he was born, he had fluid in his lungs and was having trouble getting a […]

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Overcoming Infertility {I Am Strong}

August 14, 2014

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A Healing Homebirth After Cesarean {Slideshow}

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Our Third Son, Our First Home Birth {Papa’s Story – Follow Up from Mama’s!}

August 12, 2014

Yesterday, we published Ashley’s version of her third son’s home birth story. Today, we have the father’s version of events. Aaron tells us what’s up with home water birth and how it felt to be filling the pool, comforting his wife, and feeding his kiddos at the same time. “On the morning of our 41st […]

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Pregnant with Cancer {I Am Strong}

August 11, 2014

{by Heather Wascak} I am strong because I had a natural, 44 hour home birth with my son in 2011. I am strong because when I found out I was pregnant with my second child, I decided to have another home birth. I am strong because I was running throughout my entire second pregnancy, up […]

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Our Third Son, Our First Home Birth {Mama’s Story – Read Papa’s Tomorrow!}

August 11, 2014

Ashley G. shares the story of her third son’s quick home water birth, attended by two quick-moving midwives. Tomorrow, read her husband’s version of events and find out just what he was thinking when he received a one-word text from his wife: pool. “Riley’s pregnancy was physically very easy but emotionally, it was another story. […]

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