A couple of months ago, a picture of the “real side of postpartum” went viral. It was a picture taken by a dad, of the backside of his wife wearing postpartum mesh underwear. Yes, that is a very real side of postpartum fourth trimester life. But that is also a very real side of life after a loss. I’m certainly not…
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I Am Strong – Cesarean Birth After Neonatal Loss
*trigger warning* I am strong because in April of 2012, I gave birth to a precious baby girl named Evelyn, prematurely at 24 weeks due to incompetent cervix, premature labor, and infection. I am strong because I endured a frightening classical c-section 4 hours after entering the hospital with a smile on my face, knowing it was the best chance…
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I Am Strong {Kylee}
Trigger warning: contains loss I am strong because when I was 19 I had my daughter Madison Lee. Madison was delivered all natural on Dec 3, 2005 and screamed from the time she took her first breath until she was all tuckered out 4 hr later. I am strong because my second daughter Marrell Louis was born July 3, 2012 and…
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The Strength of Words
“But if thought corrupts language, language can also corrupt thought.” – George Orwell I woke up in a daze and headed to go to the bathroom for the 3rd time that morning. I couldn’t believe it was already the 3rd trip this morning, come on, I was only 12 weeks pregnant. The baby isn’t that big. I finish and go…
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A Poem For An Angel
We’ve had a few moms write in lately that they have experienced miscarriages and loss. With a Community as large as ours, it happens more than any of us would like. It breaks our hearts. I think most women feel a pain for another woman who is going through this. Tricia has a baby waiting in heaven and when she…
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Baby Loss: Unassisted, Midwife Assisted and in Hospital Births
Editor’s note: This is a blog post I wrote on April 16th, 2009 while nearing the end of my pregnancy. Also, I was recently emailed this website from a BWF Mama. She wanted me to share it with those who are or have suffered a loss. Baby Dies in Unassisted Home Birth When I first read this article, I felt…