Today I had the pleasure of reading a rude list of things people say to women who stay home with their children. I couldn’t help but write down my initial responses and I’d love to share them!
Here is the list from the San Fransisco Chronicle along with my thoughts (in bold):
1. “When the kids are older, do you think you’ll get a real job?”
No, when my kids are older I’ll finally be semi-retired. My job won’t end until the day I die.
2. “How June Cleaver of you!”
My name is January, please don’t compare me to others.
3. “Oh, so you don’t work?”
I work 24/7 with no pay or vacation. You wouldn’t last 3 days at my job.
4. “Since you have extra time on your hands, could you whip up a few dozen brownies for the bake sale tomorrow?”
Actually, I could use some brownies. Since you have enough time to ask me and assume you know so much, can you whip up some dinner for my family? That way I can nurse the baby in peace just once today? Thanks! So thoughtful of you.
5. “All day with your kids? I can’t even imagine.”
Really? Well it’s better than being around you all day…I like them…can’t say the same for you anymore. Ya, it’s hard, but they are awesome.
6. “I’m jealous. I wish my husband were rich so I wouldn’t have to work either.”
What impression did I give you that we are rich. It was the beat up minivan, huh? You have no idea the sacrifices we make for me to be home. Think before speak.
7. “What do you do all day, anyway?”
Raise my children to not be idiots to offset all the ones there already are…hint hint.
8. “I’m sure you’re not the only one who’s ever wasted money on a college degree.”
Apparently education and common sense don’t come from a college degree. Thanks for proving that.
9.” That explains why your son is so clingy!”
That explains why my son freakin’ adores me so much!
10.” Weird. I assumed your house would be superclean.”
Weird, I thought you were just leaving.
Open mouth, insert foot. People really need to think before they speak, especially about experiences they know nothing about and have not been through themselves!
With all that said, I want you to know if there was a list of 10 things not to say to a working mom, I’d have the same response. Working moms work all day and yes they get that adult interaction and a ‘break’ from home. Some have to, some want to. Then they still come home, clean, cook, cuddle, kiss boo-boos, pay bills, support their spouses, do homework, baths, bedtime, get everything ready for the next day, etc. Being a mom is A LOT of work no matter how it’s divided up! So whether you are male or female, have children or do not have children, have respect for mothers and the hard work they do!