I am strong {Katie}

by Birth Without Fear on April 4, 2013

sistersI am strong because at 12 weeks pregnant with my first child I chose to adopt my three year old niece and one year old nephew after tragically losing my best friend, my sister.

I am strong because I managed to still work full time as an RN in the NICU while going through a huge loss, being pregnant, and a new mom of 2, soon to 3.

I am strong because after threatening pre term labor, and being told I would never make it to 37 weeks I held out to 37 & 1 day.

I am strong because despite my insane grief I managed to mother 3 children and help the oldest 2 through their grieving.

I am strong because even though the odds were stacked against me, I pumped for 10 months and my daughter got my breast milk until she was 14 months old.

Mostly, I believe I am strong because my sister is watching over me and her children, and sends her strength to work through me every day.

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Pregnancy and birth photography by Nikki Evans Photography.

{ 39 comments… read them below or add one }

Jeralyn April 4, 2013 at 8:04 pm

You are more then strong, you are amazing!


Ingrid Jones April 4, 2013 at 8:06 pm

Wow! Tears, and chills! Amazing!


Rosemary Vorih April 4, 2013 at 8:17 pm

What a beautiful but sad and and while a strong and sensitive story, with more joy to come Good to luck such a deserving family. Please keep us informed.
Rosemary Vorih


cheryl April 4, 2013 at 8:23 pm

you are one amazing woman. Best to your whole family


JDay-Sully April 4, 2013 at 8:38 pm

Bless you. What an amazing story. You are a beautiful family.


Angela Landry April 4, 2013 at 8:39 pm

You are an amazing person. And you are right you are strong and your sister I’m sure would be proud.


Bronwyn Cain April 4, 2013 at 8:40 pm

You. Are. Amazing. Bless your family.


Tracey April 4, 2013 at 8:44 pm



Meg April 4, 2013 at 9:37 pm

You are amazing!! this story touched me deeply. bless you.


Bri April 4, 2013 at 10:00 pm

Kisses and hugs. Wow. That is sooo much work. So amazing. Xo


Brie April 4, 2013 at 10:23 pm

You are an UNBELIEVABLE person, and such an inspiration. I’m sure your sister is smiling down on you with all of the love and admiration you deserve. Thank you for your wonderful, beautiful heart that you are sharing with this world. Many hugs sweet Mama, and congratulations on your new addition and your beautiful family. God bless.


Sarah April 4, 2013 at 11:00 pm

Beautiful. Thank you for sharing your story. You are strong and amazing!


Bianca April 5, 2013 at 3:17 am

You are amazing. Thank you for sharing. Chills and tears. Bless your family.


Shannon April 5, 2013 at 4:32 am

Wow. Incredible. Those 3 children are blessed to have you care for them.


Renee Eastwood April 5, 2013 at 9:55 am

You are one amazing woman !!! I look at you daily and how you devote your life in taking care of all three children. I admire you so much… Words could never explain the person you are,,,,, your actions and love takes care of it all !!! Your sister looks down on you with a strong smile and knows those babies are in good hands…. !!!!! You are a blessing !! Glad you walked into my life .


Mama April 5, 2013 at 11:56 am

All of my babies are blessed, both generations. Love you Katydid, Pooh is watching us all, and is so very proud of you.


Lise April 5, 2013 at 4:27 pm

What a beautiful heart you have. I am so touched. What a blessing you are for those beautiful kids


Natalie April 5, 2013 at 7:22 pm

Thank you for sharing your story. You truly are an amazing woman and I feel inspired by your strength.


Lacey April 5, 2013 at 10:09 pm

Love ya Katie.


sommer April 5, 2013 at 10:43 pm

this is so beautiful! Caring for your sister’s children as your own is such a wonderful thing, you are very strong!


Nikki Yoches Perret April 5, 2013 at 11:53 pm

Absolutely beautiful! What a great life you are giving those babies, this is the most selfless act of love there is. I admire you beyond words, your strength is amazing! Much love 🙂


Stacey Milton April 6, 2013 at 12:56 am

Katie, even though I only recently met you and Ben in person, I am filled with admiration for you both.
You both have more strength, courage and determination than I could only dream of having. You have three beautiful children who are so very fortunate. Both Addie and Smith are very blessed, and I know you will keep Laura alive in their hearts forever. God Bless both you and Ben.


Holly April 6, 2013 at 1:49 am

so much love to you Katie!!


SquashMama April 6, 2013 at 3:02 am

You are truly amazing 🙂 <3


Brittney Williams April 6, 2013 at 7:57 am

You are such a strong and amazing woman! I admire you and your courage to keep fighting and not sink into giving up!! Be strong and remember you have beautiful angels that surround you and your family daily!!!!
Thank you!!!


Jennifer Moore April 6, 2013 at 11:16 am

You are strong, you are amazing, you are inspirational, you are generous, your decisions and actions are more than admirable … I have tears running down my face from reading your story and the story of your family. Lots of love and best wishes to you all. May the Goddess continue to work through you. Blessed Be! )O(


Monica McDaniel April 6, 2013 at 2:02 pm

Katie, I am soo proud of you. “Strong” is an understatement. Your sister was an amazing woman and you are even more of an amazing woman because of it all. 🙂 much love, respect and “awe”…mon


Deborah April 6, 2013 at 9:24 pm

Stay strong sweet lady for The Lord has great blessings in store for you!!


Martin Foret April 6, 2013 at 10:46 pm



Denise kennedy April 12, 2013 at 1:17 pm

Katie, as sisters we give our love as wives we give our devotion as moms we give our lives what a treasure you have been for 3 blessed children You are cherished


jen May 1, 2013 at 3:03 pm

wow. I am amazed


Mindy May 1, 2013 at 3:11 pm

I am crying. You are amazing! And, that picture of you holding your new babe with mascara running down your cheek is absolutely perfect!


Tara Roddick May 1, 2013 at 3:12 pm



Amy May 1, 2013 at 3:18 pm

This is such a beautiful story – thank you thank you thank you for sharing it with the world! Your family is beautiful and YOU are AMAZING. Three little ones are very blessed to have you as a mom, and to have a loving mother/aunt in Heaven.


Elizabeth May 1, 2013 at 3:18 pm

You are amazing and those babies you have are lucky to have you as their mama.


Gioia Mama ARtist May 1, 2013 at 4:45 pm

Yes, you’re strong and an amazing person and despite your grief your family here and upthere are really lucky to have you!
Take care!


Jen July 30, 2016 at 2:52 pm

Such a great read! You are amazing!


Anthony May 16, 2017 at 10:27 pm

You are very strong and have done incredible things for you and your family.


BabyDevelopmentSuccess September 23, 2017 at 4:49 pm

This is inspiring, thanks for sharing!


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